You might have asked yourself many times....does this (whatever the situation) really work? I want to talk right now about the coping strategies that many people just take for granted when going through a big trouble. There is a major MAJOR most important one! You NEED to tell someone....it's the first step in everything.....just like with good things that you need to tell someone, same thing applies here. Hopefully you choose the appropiate person, as there are many people who will pretend to care for about 5 mins and then forget that you even felt sad....and act as if nothing has happened. If this is what happened to you, dont lose courage! There's other people you can tell as long as you feel comfortable...There's no limit as to how many people you can tell.
Other coping strategies are closely related to what you used to like. If you are a sporty girl, you probably like outdoors, running, being active! If you know you are and you are struggling through depression right now...go for walks! Doesnt have to be long...you can walk your dog too....it's a great way to get you out of the house and get the exercise your body was used to.
If you are a quiet, shy girl, chances are you are good at drawing, singing, and love music. These are great hobbies! Make it a goal to draw a little bit every day, to sing your heart out for a couple of songs, to search for songs on the internet on your favourite band! Even if it's just 5-10 mins....do it everyday! It will be your own little personal coping strategy that you can call your own!
If you realized that you were a straight A student and now are in the C's and have a hard time getting B's.....you are probably really good at puzzles and writing....maybe playing an instrument, and like to challenge yourself more. But since you started feeling depressed you feel like you can't accomplish anything....well guess what! You dont HAVE to feel that way....go and play the piano, or your guitar that you put away for so long that you used to love...take out that journal that you havent written in ages out! Go online and look up your favourite puzzles and do them! There's also some on the daily newspapers....
These are just examples of three types of girls....all feeling the same way but all coping differently....It goes to show that everybody is going to get better a different way, but that DOES NOT mean that you won't get well! Trust me, It will!
Ladies! (and maybe a possible guy who would be reading this, if you are a guy, same thing applies!!)
Take care of yourselves and don't forget to smile today!
Love,
Girl
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Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Backstabbers
How do you feel about backstabbers? See, today i just found out about another one and to be honest i'm not in the the greatest of moods. In fact, i'm gonna admit i'm pretty down. Life today is not how i expected it to go. This is adding the fact that I have a math exam tomorrow. That just sucks in itself. What if we take a scenario: There's this boy and this girl. The boy tells the girl he likes her. Girl believes him. Boy helps girl for a loong time throughout problems she had. Boy tells girl she can always trust him. Again, girl believes him. Boy was secretely dating for more than a month. Girl cant believe it. Now suppose this scenario is true. Now, suppose girl is writing this.
How would you feel if you had no one to turn to today? How would you feel if people just assume you are ok? Why is it always that way? Why do people assume? The fact that Girl has no one to turn to right is pretty sad. See, where are those who are called "friends" in days like today? Where are those who said they would never leave? Those who said they would be there every day. Well, it seems like they have forgotten about today, and the day before that, and the day before that.........etc. Some would say to give them the benefit of the doubt. Girl has done that, girl has seen what its like to be replaced. To be told you are not good enough. How would you feel if YOUR best friend told you you are not good enough?
The fact that there's this other person that lives 6 hours away, that you have only seen 5 times in your life, that you know can help you, doesnt help either. Wont answer phone calls, texts, emails....you name it. So much for this person to call me a "sister". Family doesnt turn away from you like that. Now, what about my family? Well, turns out that they cant know anything because they take it to the other side. A phone call wont make a difference, a chat, anything. They will overrreact and be extremely worried which is not what i want either. Now you will ask, well what is it that i want?
What i want is to be understood. I'm different, i'm not like a regular person. I stand out, because of my beliefs, because of my situations, etc. I want to feel needed. Not like that always extra person that you cant get rid of. I want my family to love me for who i am, and to understand what its like to be me. I want those people who promised me they would be there, to come back. Hopefully, its nothing out of the ordinary, since everywhere i look around, people have all these things i'm desiring.
Confessions of Today,
Girl
How would you feel if you had no one to turn to today? How would you feel if people just assume you are ok? Why is it always that way? Why do people assume? The fact that Girl has no one to turn to right is pretty sad. See, where are those who are called "friends" in days like today? Where are those who said they would never leave? Those who said they would be there every day. Well, it seems like they have forgotten about today, and the day before that, and the day before that.........etc. Some would say to give them the benefit of the doubt. Girl has done that, girl has seen what its like to be replaced. To be told you are not good enough. How would you feel if YOUR best friend told you you are not good enough?
The fact that there's this other person that lives 6 hours away, that you have only seen 5 times in your life, that you know can help you, doesnt help either. Wont answer phone calls, texts, emails....you name it. So much for this person to call me a "sister". Family doesnt turn away from you like that. Now, what about my family? Well, turns out that they cant know anything because they take it to the other side. A phone call wont make a difference, a chat, anything. They will overrreact and be extremely worried which is not what i want either. Now you will ask, well what is it that i want?
What i want is to be understood. I'm different, i'm not like a regular person. I stand out, because of my beliefs, because of my situations, etc. I want to feel needed. Not like that always extra person that you cant get rid of. I want my family to love me for who i am, and to understand what its like to be me. I want those people who promised me they would be there, to come back. Hopefully, its nothing out of the ordinary, since everywhere i look around, people have all these things i'm desiring.
Confessions of Today,
Girl
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